We each judge and question our perceived self. Self-perception is based upon what we ‘feel’. Once we judge our self with words that describe qualities those qualities make it difficult to realise anything that is in conflict with that criteria. It is because of our ‘self-perception’ that few realise that within each one of us is the complete answer to all our questions. What people look for in other people is an answer that can only be found within. What we look for is something better than what we have judged ourselves to be. The truth of us is beyond what we define our self to be.